So in my quest for better health I discovered that it is necessary to exercise. No big surprise I was just hoping for a different discovery. I have never been that much into working out. I dabbled in tennis, yoga, weight lifting even jazzercise. Having two left feet ruled that and Zumba out. I did enjoy a boxing class that was offered for a while. The only downside was not being able to lift my arms to brush my teeth. I lack the motivation and commitment to stay doing one thing. It has always been one of my negative traits. I would like a flat stomach but probably not more than I enjoy sitting on my ass.
I did finally get in a groove with some weight training. I liked the way I felt and the energy it gave me. Then old age or something else as cruel intervened. One day I did something lame like open a pickle jar or pick up my 10 lb. dog and yowza! Pain like I had never felt in my shoulder. I did what I do best and I ignored it. Masking the pain with salonpas patches. If you don’t know about them they are a slice of menthol heaven. So for almost a year I smelled like my grandma after a night smoking menthol at bingo. Then I gave in and went to 2 different doctors and an acupuncturist. I received 3 different diagnosis and am not any closer to feeling better. By the way I type this wearing two menthol patches and smelling like a cough drop.
So my physical activity basically went to crap! I walk that is it. I would like muscles or a nice definition. However, I would like to not yelp out in pain when I reach back to hook my bra. So friends, what do you suggest? Two things needed please. What motivates you to get up every day and say cardio…Yes! Second what would you recommend for me? I am willing to try new things if it doesn’t aggravate my torn labrum, bursitis or inflammation of the shoulder. Whichever diagnosis you want to believe?? I am 10 pounds away from being what the charts say is “normal”. I would like to reach that goal in a healthy and physical way. Help me obi-wan Kenobi you’re my only help. 🙂 Or help me people with fitness blogs who know more than me!
Thanks for listening!
In my original post I discussed that this blog would also be about dating when you were closed to 50. Here is the thing, I need to get a dating life first before I can blog about it. 🙂 That is the reason for the question marks in my title. Where do I go to meet interesting and available men? A little back story if you will indulge me. I have never been married or actually really wanted to get married. I came close once while in a 5 year relationship with a wonderful man who turned out to be not so wonderful. It was the classic story boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, boy leaves girl for ex who came into a lot of money. You know that old tale. It left me shaken and a tad bitter for several years. Then I entered the younger man phase. I was a cougar before cougars were cool. Yeah, I know it’s not entirely accurate. However, it was so fun. Younger guys don’t talk about marriage, or 401Ks or getting up in the middle of the night to pee. Unfortunately, the younger guys I dated also didn’t talk about jobs or cars or homes because they didn’t have them. I struggled to find a middle ground. I am still looking.
I will admit that all through my 20’s and 30’s I met men either through work or at bars. I was fortunate to work in industries with lots of client mixers and interactions. Then in my 30’s I joined a company that although wonderful was very small. A very limited dating pool. It was also the beginning of online dating. Great! Sign me up to meet all the men I see on match.com ads. Problem I met 2 kinds of men on these sites. The first talked about marriage on the initial date. The second were the real prize sending me pictures of their junk immediately. Side note men…don’t…send…dick…pics! It’s not your best feature. Once a million years ago I was dating a guy long distance and he sent me a picture on my phone. I had an old flip phone so my cousin said I think you can send it to my computer and we can see it there. I assumed it was of his new car. So in front of a few friends and her now husband a picture of my boyfriend’s junk popped up on-screen. After that it was difficult to have a dinner party without someone reminding him we had all seen his business. So again unless she asks for it, don’t send it. Back on point, I didn’t do well on the online scene. So I just stayed single until I reconnected with an old friend from high school. It was perfect we knew the same people and we were around the same age. Unfortunately, it did not work out.
So here I am in a new year with new opportunities. With absolutely no clue how to meet a decent guy. Oh, I know a lot of decent guys but they are all married. I don’t think their wives and in some case husbands are willing to share. So online community, where did you meet your partner? I am a fun gal and willing to get out there. I mean look at my picture and you can see I shake it up! (is it cool to say that or old lady like?) Was it church, online, bar, school or random place? I will write about whatever experiences I have even the embarrassing ones. Pinkie swear.
I will report back,
That is the million dollar question these days. Every group has their opinion and facts to back up their plan. I think the question is what is best for you? In my 48 years I have tried every plan under the sun. The kitchen is my happy place. I like everything about it from the planning to preparation to presentation. So the only requirement I ever had for a diet was no diet shake and no premade dinners. My love for everything food was mostly to blame for the extra 70 pounds I was carrying. Well, that and a cold beer.
So back to my dilemma. What is going to be the best plan for me? After gastric sleeve surgery you are required to eat your protein first. They stress the importance of meat protein at every meal. This was a challenge for me on many levels. Can all that meat be good for your heart? I made it through the first 4 months before I said for the love of Pete can I just have a salad? Of course I can but only if I make smart choices with the salad.
So is Vegan an option? Yes and no. I discovered that a vegan diet is not popular with bariatric surgeons. You can only eat about a cup at each meal. A cup of chicken has a lot more protein than a cup of green beans. I know that there are meat substitutes available but have you tried them all? Some do have a lack of flavor. So I was stuck. Do I continue to eat meat all the damn time?
Then this week I read an article about a Pegan diet. It is the brainchild of Dr. Mark Hyman. It takes the best of Paleo and Vegan and combines it. Sounds good…but how to go about finding the fit for me. Can I give up cheese for the rest of my life? It also eliminates legumes. I thought beans were A+ foods. In the end can anyone stick to a plan that restricts or eliminates a food group? I think the only group that can are Vegan’s. If you are a vegan for ethical reasons than I know that is a strict commitment.
For now I have decided to try a little of everything. I am putting a lot more emphasis on plant based foods but not cut out all dairy. I will continue to add lean meats in my plan but on a smaller scale. Pinterest is my favorite place to learn about foods I am unfamiliar with such as tempeh. I made some delicious tempeh tacos with a cabbage, green onion and radish slaw. I didn’t miss ground beef or cheese. Really I swear I didn’t! I guess my non professional advice today is not to be afraid to try new things. If you had told me a year ago I would put nutritional yeast instead of butter on my popcorn I would have called you crazy. Try it by the way, you won’t regret it. I welcome comments or thoughts on the plan you love. I am always willing to try a new recipe and report back.
All my best,
I procrastinate. Case in point, I thought about beginning a blog before my 40th birthday. As you can tell by my title 40 has come and gone. Now as I approach 49 I wonder can people really change? Can I put my thoughts into words and interact with thousands of new people…hundreds…okay a dozen? I had a lot of changes happen this year and it inspired me to give it a shot. I moved back to the city of my youth and purchased a home older than me. It is a work in progress like the owner. I had some health issues and underwent a gastric sleeve so far losing 54 pounds.
However, the biggest change was what I wanted for my life. I am tired of sleepwalking through life. You blink and a moment is a memory. When I was 40 I made a list of 50 things that I wanted to do before I turned 50. I have accomplished one task on that list. That is not the worst part. The list is dumb and filled with things I thought I should do or places that I needed to visit. So instead of a list I am just going to try and experience life.
I mentioned the gastric sleeve because weight loss is usually on everyone’s mind. I didn’t think it was important to me. I felt comfortable, had high self esteem and found boyfriends. It didn’t seem important until my doctor said you have to lose weight or your health is in jeopardy. I lost my father when he was 73 of COPD and obesity. It was like a bucket of cold water. When he mentioned surgery I was immediately pissed off. Standing at 5’4 and wearing a size 16 I certainly had excess weight but weight loss surgery. Well screw you Doc! Thankfully I did my research and made the decision to go forward. It’s not for everyone but it was the correct choice for me. I reversed fatty liver disease, insulin resistance and cardiovascular issues. It certainly hasn’t been a walk in the park but I am glad I did it!
In my blog I want to share healthy recipes, my experiences on the dating scene at 48 and encourage everyone to live life. Don’t let it pass you by! I also hope people will share their tips and stories with me. For instance I am always looking for a great skin cream. I swear by BioSil by the way. If you don’t take it you should check it out. It helps fine lines, nails and hair. Of course, if I am going to share a tip I should say water is the best thing for dry skin. I hope to talk with you and hopefully you will enjoy my stories.
All my best,
This is the post excerpt.
Welcome to Flirting With Fifty. I started this blog to share stories of life, love and food. Also I hope to learn and hear about your stories too. Approaching middle age is a challenge so let’s help each other.