What’s your poison?

Let’s talk about drinking and weight loss. Everyone knows that alcohol is not the best when you are trying to get healthy. Empty calories are not something you need. However, if drinking has always been part of your social circle how do you eliminate it? Do you need to eliminate it? There are many different ideas and opinions. I had a male friend who quit drinking beer and lost 25 pounds in what seemed like 2 days. Not accurate but frustrating for some of us. I once quit drinking for 3 months and gained 10 pounds. So what is the answer?

 After my decision to get healthy and change my life I cut out a lot of drinking. Not that I had an issue but I was most definitely a social drinker. So when weight loss was an absolute must I didn’t know what to do. Should I switch to low carb drinks or wine or vodka? I made the decision to switch to wine and cut way back. This was my choice. What about you? If health and weight loss is your goal how do you handle liquor? Did you cut it out or scale back? My goal is to have long and healthy life. Some studies say wine is not a bad option. What do you think? What plan do you follow? Can you lose weight and stay healthy and still enjoy happy hour?

Interested in your reply.

M

Single and ready to mingle??

In my original post I discussed that this blog would also be about dating when you were closed to 50. Here is the thing, I need to get a dating life first before I can blog about it. 🙂 That is the reason for the question marks in my title. Where do I go to meet interesting and available men? A little back story if you will indulge me.  I have never been married or actually really wanted to get married.  I came close once while in a 5 year relationship with a wonderful man who turned out to be not so wonderful. It was the classic story boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, boy leaves girl for ex who came into a lot of money.  You know that old tale. It left me shaken and a tad bitter for several years.  Then I entered the younger man phase.  I was a cougar before cougars were cool. Yeah, I know it’s not entirely accurate. However, it was so fun.  Younger guys don’t talk about marriage, or 401Ks or getting up in the middle of the night to pee. Unfortunately, the younger guys I dated also didn’t talk about jobs or cars or homes because they didn’t have them. I struggled to find a middle ground.  I am still looking.

I will admit that all through my 20’s and 30’s I met men either through work or at bars. I was fortunate to work in industries with lots of client mixers and interactions.  Then in my 30’s I joined a company that although wonderful was very small.  A very limited dating pool. It was also the beginning of online dating. Great! Sign me up to meet all the men I see on match.com ads. Problem I met 2 kinds of men on these sites. The first talked about marriage on the initial date. The second were the real prize sending me pictures of their junk immediately. Side note men…don’t…send…dick…pics! It’s not your best feature. Once a million years ago I was dating a guy long distance and he sent me a picture on my phone. I had an old flip phone so my cousin said I think you can send it to my computer and we can see it there. I assumed it was of his new car. So in front of a few friends and her now husband a picture of my boyfriend’s junk popped up on-screen. After that it was difficult to have a dinner party without someone reminding him we had all seen his business. So again unless she asks for it, don’t send it. Back on point, I didn’t do well on the online scene. So I just stayed single until I reconnected with an old friend from high school. It was perfect we knew the same people and we were around the same age. Unfortunately, it did not work out.

So here I am in a new year with new opportunities. With absolutely no clue how to meet a decent guy. Oh, I know a lot of decent guys but they are all married. I don’t think their wives and in some case husbands are willing to share. So online community, where did you meet your partner? I am a fun gal and willing to get out there. I mean look at my picture and you can see I shake it up! (is it cool to say that or old lady like?)  Was it church, online, bar, school or random place? I will write about whatever experiences I have even the embarrassing ones.  Pinkie swear.

I will report back,

M.