Single and ready to mingle??

In my original post I discussed that this blog would also be about dating when you were closed to 50. Here is the thing, I need to get a dating life first before I can blog about it. 🙂 That is the reason for the question marks in my title. Where do I go to meet interesting and available men? A little back story if you will indulge me.  I have never been married or actually really wanted to get married.  I came close once while in a 5 year relationship with a wonderful man who turned out to be not so wonderful. It was the classic story boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, boy leaves girl for ex who came into a lot of money.  You know that old tale. It left me shaken and a tad bitter for several years.  Then I entered the younger man phase.  I was a cougar before cougars were cool. Yeah, I know it’s not entirely accurate. However, it was so fun.  Younger guys don’t talk about marriage, or 401Ks or getting up in the middle of the night to pee. Unfortunately, the younger guys I dated also didn’t talk about jobs or cars or homes because they didn’t have them. I struggled to find a middle ground.  I am still looking.

I will admit that all through my 20’s and 30’s I met men either through work or at bars. I was fortunate to work in industries with lots of client mixers and interactions.  Then in my 30’s I joined a company that although wonderful was very small.  A very limited dating pool. It was also the beginning of online dating. Great! Sign me up to meet all the men I see on match.com ads. Problem I met 2 kinds of men on these sites. The first talked about marriage on the initial date. The second were the real prize sending me pictures of their junk immediately. Side note men…don’t…send…dick…pics! It’s not your best feature. Once a million years ago I was dating a guy long distance and he sent me a picture on my phone. I had an old flip phone so my cousin said I think you can send it to my computer and we can see it there. I assumed it was of his new car. So in front of a few friends and her now husband a picture of my boyfriend’s junk popped up on-screen. After that it was difficult to have a dinner party without someone reminding him we had all seen his business. So again unless she asks for it, don’t send it. Back on point, I didn’t do well on the online scene. So I just stayed single until I reconnected with an old friend from high school. It was perfect we knew the same people and we were around the same age. Unfortunately, it did not work out.

So here I am in a new year with new opportunities. With absolutely no clue how to meet a decent guy. Oh, I know a lot of decent guys but they are all married. I don’t think their wives and in some case husbands are willing to share. So online community, where did you meet your partner? I am a fun gal and willing to get out there. I mean look at my picture and you can see I shake it up! (is it cool to say that or old lady like?)  Was it church, online, bar, school or random place? I will write about whatever experiences I have even the embarrassing ones.  Pinkie swear.

I will report back,

M.

 

 

Flirting with 50

I procrastinate. Case in point, I thought about beginning a blog before my 40th birthday.  As you can tell by my title 40 has come and gone. Now as I approach 49 I wonder can people really change? Can I put my thoughts into words and interact with thousands of new people…hundreds…okay a dozen? I had a lot of changes happen this year and it inspired me to give it a shot.  I moved back to the city of my youth and purchased a home older than me. It is a work in progress like the owner.  I had some health issues and underwent a gastric sleeve so far losing 54 pounds.

However, the biggest change was what I wanted for my life.  I am tired of sleepwalking through life.  You blink and a moment is a memory. When I was 40 I made a list of 50 things that I wanted to do before I turned 50.  I have accomplished one task on that list. That is not the worst part.  The list is dumb and filled with things I thought I should do or places that I needed to visit. So instead of a list I am just going to try and experience life.

I mentioned the gastric sleeve because weight loss is usually on everyone’s mind.  I didn’t think it was important to me.  I felt comfortable, had high self esteem and found boyfriends.  It didn’t seem important until my doctor said you have to lose weight or your health is in jeopardy.  I lost my father when he was 73 of COPD and obesity. It was like a bucket of cold water.  When he mentioned surgery I was immediately pissed off. Standing at 5’4 and wearing a size 16 I certainly had excess weight but weight loss surgery.  Well screw you Doc! Thankfully I did my research and made the decision to go forward.  It’s not for everyone but it was the correct choice for me. I reversed fatty liver disease, insulin resistance and cardiovascular issues. It certainly hasn’t been a walk in the park but I am glad I did it!

In my blog I want to share healthy recipes, my experiences on the dating scene at 48 and encourage everyone to live life. Don’t let it pass you by!  I also hope people will share their tips and stories with me.  For instance I am always looking for a great skin cream.  I swear by BioSil by the way.  If you don’t take it you should check it out.  It helps fine lines, nails and hair.  Of course, if I am going to share a tip I should say water is the best thing for dry skin.  I hope to talk with you and hopefully you will enjoy my stories.

All my best,

M